Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Do you want to be in pain? or no?

We, as parents, try to reason with Henry and try to point out consequences to an action. For instance - yesterday he was standing in the road on the dead end street beside our house. I asked him several times to get out of the road. Then I asked him if he would like to be hit by a car because that's what can happen when you stand in the road. He said he would and then I explained that he did not really want to because it would really hurt and Mommy and Jeff (a witness) would be sad if that happened. I occasionally use this technique when he is rough with Claudia - do you want to be pinched? do you want to be hit? etc. Later in the evening Henry used his own powers of reasoning with me - I had scolded him and feeling the dread of being scolded he changed the subject to asking me about my interest in being in pain.
Conversation as follows:
H: Do you want to be hit by a car?
Me: No - I do not.
H: Do you want to get hit by a wall?
Me: No - I do not.
H: Do you want to get hit by a house?
Me: No - I do not.
H: Do you want to be hit by a couch?
Me: No - I do not want to be hit by anything.
H: How bout this pillow? This pillow will make you better.

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